Explanations to unidentified reasons as to why parents blame you, the child, for everything wrong in THEIR lives.
Throughout life, everyone has problems with their parents, from the most perfect family to the most shallowly disoriented. Often times, from the parents’ perspective, it’s safe to assume that your child is off doing things that he/she should not be doing, of course. Although that is the safest thing to assume, it isn’t fair and it isn’t right, because it’s not always true.
Every parent exerts respective authority to the best of his knowledge with hopes of being an adequate role model. It is safe to say that no one can be 100% at anything, no matter who they may be. Having said this, I’d like to proudly point out that parents are defective a whole lot more than they presume! A WHOLE LOT!
But before you jump at my throat for unjustly slandering your perfect parent, hear me out. No matter whom you are, you are bound to wrongfully expel some anger and rage toward those who do not deserve it. For example, if you are working immensely for the better part of your day, your “lovely” boss is yelling at you, and you’ve just learned that you’ll have to continue using the bus as transportation to work for another week because your car is getting a full tune-up from that accident that wasn’t your fault, then you are expected to have at least a tiny bit of anger bottled up inside. Anger that, for the most part, will be thrown at the wrong people.
As a person, I know that everyone has some steam they’d like to blow off once in a while. I understand. I understand you just fine, parents. But what I DON’T deduce from all this, nor choose to accept your judgment as a reasonable answer is, “Why do you discharge your fury on those you love most?” What I mean is, from all of the people you hate, and the hundreds of strangers you see every day, why’d you decide to make your loved ones most miserable? If family comes first, why do you put them last?
The reason is targets. Everyone, even you and I, have targets on who we take our anger out on. Usually, it’s somebody we come in contact with every day; a co-worker, a classmate, or in this case, a family member. Adults pick their children (or spouse) as targets because they are the most qualified candidates for the job. How could they not be!? From a parent’s point of view, you will never get in any serious trouble for yelling or punishing your child, you have complete control over them AND they get mad when you punish them. I’ll give you the basic breakdown: Parents wrongfully punish their children so they can feel better about their useless lives. They have nobody to boss around, so they control their children. Plain and simple. Making someone else feel bad makes you feel good! It’s human nature! Although the more stress you have, from work, school, pressured life, etc., the more you tend to save for later. Using your child as target practice for anger-release techniques grows and spreads in a person’s subconscious faster than wildfire. More anger means more hatred toward your children, which, in turn, means more relief and release for you.
Don’t get me wrong, I am no therapist. If you’re looking for a specific solution that involves “5 Easy Steps” to relinquish your anger in a positive way, you are sadly mistaken. I cannot, nor can anyone else, give you that formula. There is no specific recipe for fixing family relationships because every individual’s family is different. We are all different; that’s what constructs our unique components. So, for me to tell you how you should behave with and around your children would be to unwillingly alter yourself. Then this would all be pointless, wouldn’t it? Just like robots.
I have no specific answer, although here are my “5 Easy Steps” that apply to the general population:
- Do not mistreat the ones you love most, self-explanatory.
- Parents, don’t find false reasons to punish your children, find other ways of releasing anger.
- The children of parents (which is everybody), stand up to your “tyrants” and remind them that you’re not just some random piece of trash off the street, you are their child.
- When choosing a target, make sure it’s someone that you have reason to hate, or no reason to love.
- STOP LYING TO YOURSELF. STOP BLAMING OTHERS. TAKE SOME RESPONSIBILITY!
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Alright everyone, we have some updates regarding things around here.
First off, our blog is not suspended, nor should we be in any danger. I was informed that everything was just a mistake, the system suspended us by accident.
Secondly, we have not 1, not 2, but 3 (THREE) new L4D networks for everyone to use! Details are on the side panel and below:
Voltaire’s Underground L4D: Open
Voltaire’s Playground L4D: Open
L4D @ The Underground: Open
Password is l4d like every other network.
Edit: Versatile tried to get into the networks. He found that he could not get into the first one, the second one works, and that for the third one, you need to add a “space” after the word Underground.
I am also going to work on a few things around here, buff stuff up if you will.
I hope everyone’s week has been enjoyable so far. The crazy weather recently, at the very least in our neck of the woods, has contributed to many unfortunate accidents. This being part reason for the slightly new sort of post this week in Life, I want to share something with you that has personally worked for me. There are some barriers people get to when using this method, but all I can offer to those of you in that situation is please, do your best to complete it. : ) I guarantee some sort of results.
So first of all, choose a simple, minor or major but absolutely realistic task that you know you are completely committed to completing, write it down, put it on the mirror in the bathroom, the fridge, TV, computer monitor, wherever you first go in the morning. The next morning, you’ll be able to feel fresh and ready to complete this task. Do this for every day you need to do the following and remember, it can be cleaning the couch, organizing a drawer, brushing your teeth, or winning the Super Bowl.
Next, list your current issues. Your problems, your pain, everything. Keep each item to a phrase or short sentence. Something short. Give a good amount of space in between each one. If they’re more of the moment or things that are more daily stresses instead of more serious ones, at every 7 minutes after the hour, rip one off and just throw it out.
If its a bigger issue, every day after you complete that one single thing you wrote down for the day, major or super minor, tear that big issue off and throw it out as you are going to bed. Don’t miss the trash bin!
There’s one more thing I would like you to do. Now that you’re in the habit of writing a goal to accomplish for each day, make it 2 goals. Make it regular, and make them more realistic and practical each day. You’ll find yourself having more free time with more things done. This particular tip I received from a professional, and it’s worked great for me and the people around me.
So let me know how this works for you. firstname.lastname@example.org or please leave a comment to this article. Your e-mail and e-mail address will be completely confidential.
[ Source : GN ]
God speed and Best wishes.
Have you experienced problems with your pc? don’t know why or what is going on?
Well, it might just be your RAM. Here at The Underground, we know how much you need your pc, or else how could we write for you? Here is a really helpful program that will allow you to check whether your RAM has a problem.
“Memtest86 is thorough, stand alone memory test for x86 architecture computers. BIOS based memory tests are a quick, cursory check and often miss many of the failures that are detected by Memtest86.”
To use the Memtest, you have to download it from their website: here
Memtest is free, however, if you dont know how to use or make bootable disks, you will have to buy it from them.
Ok, so, we want to help you avoid the costs. Download memtest and use a program like Nero or Sonic to burn the .iso file to a blank cd.
now, reboot your pc and go into the BIOS. you will have to change the boot order from Hard Drive or USB to CD. Save your changes, exit the BIOS, and insert the CD.
the pc should reboot by default, if not, restart yourself. the test should now run and it will tell you if there are errors on you RAM. the test takes various amounts of time depending on your PC.
This is what memtest looks like:
This is what memtest will show if you have errors. these are generalized, you might get different errors:
Here’s some proof that it works. When I built my pc, i experienced many restarts. i ran memtest and learned that my ram was faulty. now, i am posting this today to help those that need it. So, MemTest really does work. I replaced my RAM ASAP and now can play all the games I want and write articles for The Underground
Download MemTest here at: http://memtest86.com/download.html