How to Think Rationally With Your Emotions

Stripping oneself of emotional beliefs ultimately leads to the inability to possess judgment. In simpler words, people often try to detach themselves from their emotions because they believe it will make them stronger. In reality though, emotions are coping mechanisms; ways to remove a burden or two, which allows room for rational thinking.

People often think that ridding themselves of emotions will make them stronger and able to handle anything; this is not true the least bit. Truth of the matter is that emotions give you the Human Element; leisure, happiness, momentary judgment, etc. To cage one’s feelings is close to being a robot: You have a formula for everything; an equation to every situation. This would not work because even the most stubborn person will admit that life is unpredictable and there is no real way of controlling it.


Relating to examples from my life, I once was an eerie teenager with a deep fear of emotional thinking; I was afraid of getting hurt. I reconciled the same inhuman behavior, and before I knew it, I was more machine than man. I have no intention of sounding like the Terminator, but it was quite true. I extirpated all “irrational” thoughts from my mind as well as my life.

For a good period of time, I believed, with all my heart, that I was doing the right thing by lunging my humanistic beliefs aside and trying everything by a belief system I created (that comes later). Now, when I look back on it, I feel like I’ve wasted a good part of my life. True enough I’m only 17, but high school is a time to be cherished. I gaze back at the past and see that all the times I’ve attempted to be right and true to life’s equation looks like a sham; a sorry excuse for fear and failure. All of those years I thought I was doing the right thing, but in fact, my life was more damaged than the average person’s.

I’m not saying I regret those years (I regret nothing), but I certainly wish I’d realized the error of my ways sooner rather than later. The events that occurred blossomed me into the person I am today, but I could have easily avoided the death traps had I known the simplicity of nearly all of the events that transpired.


Being a machine is one thing, beyond human is another. At this state, a person is making him/her feel bad for the simplest of things; drama would fall under this category; and although things might suggest to be “The most important thing of your life!”, I assure you, it isn’t. Gander at the big picture here, and don’t be stuck in the present. Ask yourself, “Will it be important 10 years from now?”

People who let their feelings get the best of them often find themselves giving into peer pressure or doing things they would never actually do just to fit in. Over thinking is also common among these fine critters; situations that are normally child’s play turn into exhausting mental dribble.


I suppose having a proper amount of balance in anything is essential: The right foods with the right diet, plenty of sleep due to hard work, etc. This is especially true when it comes to emotions though.  You don’t want to turn into a zombie robot, but you don’t want to go lower than a willow tree because of the slightest occurrence.

Balance, the key is balance, not too little, not too much.

About venomouswonder

I'm just the mere age of 19. I write, and I F**CKING love it.

Posted on July 4, 2010, in Advice, Crazy Views, Culture, Health, Knowledge, Life and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 4 Comments.

  1. I’m very curious to ask this: have you found your balance yet?

    • venomouswonder

      Well, I like to think I have, but I can never be too sure. In the past, I thought I was doing the right thing, but I wasn’t. I could just as easily be making the mistake right now of assuming, but this time it’s different. Because, this time, I’m aware of what I did wrong, and I’m aware of what NOT to do.

      Am I sure? No, I am not. But at least I have eliminated a few more possible mistakes off of my list. Only time will tell.

  2. It’s funny to find this. I went through all of high school wondering what was going on with other people and felt out of ‘the loop’ per se. After hitting college though I decided to revisit a lot of my past and reconnecting it makes everything that’s going on around me feel more vivid. Not only do you get tougher but your able to help others out a lot. Nice post, and I totally support the view!

  3. Very good post. I’m dealing with a few of these issues as well..

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